Man, I just love the Zits comic strip. At the moment the writers are compiling a list of "100 Things To Do Before You Turn 16", and somewhere around number 40 is "Approach someone way out of your league". It goes something like this:
Hector: You actually did it??
Jeremy: Yeah, well, I said, like "Are you done with the ketchup?" and she went, like, "Yeah."
Pierce: She even spoke to you?? Dude, that's wicked cool!!
The dialog doesn't do the actual comic strip justice. But suffice to say it was a suitably sarcastic reenaction of something most of us would identify with: knowing and interacting with people whom you believe are way better than you. By "better" I mean the subconscious acknowledgement that that person is cooler, smarter, or just prettier than you are. And you can't help but admire them and want to know them better, but you feel you're not good enough for them, and you think its an impossibility that those people would even want to know you. In other words, you feel that they're "way out of your league".
So, have you ever met someone "way out of your league"? I've met plenty. And I'm always puzzled at my reaction: a sudden attack of shyness, a tendency to ignore those people, a little bit (okay, more than a little) of envy, and more than a twinge of low self-esteem. I'm puzzled because I've always believed that everyone is equal, yet apparently my subconsiousness doesn't agree, and I'm presented yet again with another insight on how I value myself and others (By the way kudos to Jacintha for her extremely thought-provoking talk on self-worth).
So how do you deal with people way out of your league? Tell me, cause I've the feeling I'm going to meet A LOT more of them very very soon.
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Werny,
Have confidence in yourself and in God =) Take comfort in knowing that He loves you and you are never alone. Those people? It's their confidence, the way they bring themselves that makes people admire them. Love yourself first before expecting others to do the same. I believe you'll do well there.. Wait, I know that you'll do well there =) Don't worry too much! I'll be praying for you..
dude
you are just the same as i WAS
note the past tense
you told me in school before, sometimes, the first step we should always thake is the most difficult one: to forgive and accept oneself
and having people who are out of your league around should be a positive thing - you'll grow more and more, and someday you'll be leading and helping others grow as well
trust me
or more appropriately, believe in yourself
-Javey-
Haha, thanks guys, but don't worry about me, I'm actually relishing the prospect of meeting people out of my league. But thanks for the advice nonetheless. Cheers. =)
If it makes you feel any better, I once thought that YOU were out of MY league.
=P
*note the past tense as well. XD
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